Part 3: What can be done to start to shift this dynamic?

Terri Apter in her book suggests that it requires “high-level skills” to manage this dynamic and one of the first steps is to see how OUR OWN behaviour should change, only then will the other’s behaviour be modified. Both MIL, DIL and husband need to ask themselves “what role am I playing here”, “what doContinue reading “Part 3: What can be done to start to shift this dynamic?”

Part 2: How do we make sense of the MIL, DIL dynamic?

Part 2 takes a look at factors that may have contributed to difficulties in the family. Attachments to parents run deep. Sharanjeet was her sons first love. Mother and child have an intimate and absorbing bond that is essential in terms of the infant’s survival and ability to thrive in the world. The parent takesContinue reading “Part 2: How do we make sense of the MIL, DIL dynamic?”

The Mother-in-Law, Daughter-in-Law Dynamic: Part 1

Part 1: Understanding the Mother-in-Law, Daughter-in-Law Dynamic (Based on Terry Apter’s book “What do you want from me: learning to get along with in-laws”). The mother-in-law (MIL), daughter-in-law (DIL) dynamic has been cited as one of the most challenging of issues that couples have to deal with, particularly in Asian culture where it is commonContinue reading “The Mother-in-Law, Daughter-in-Law Dynamic: Part 1”